If you can t do this yourself, I highly recommend getting a manicure — emphasis on man. Manicures are incredibly relaxing and cheap especially if you re not getting polish as the ladies do, but if you re into that I don t judge.
I highly recommend these for after an intense upper-body day at the gym. A lot of nail ladies will massage your neck too; it s the bomb. Trust me. Last, but certainly not least, let s talk bout man-scaping.
If you re trying to get laid, you re going to need to do something with your hair-down-there. You don t have to go total bald-eagle unless your hookup has made it clear that that s the hairstyle she prefers for your peen , but you certainly should trim. Carefully trim your pubes to a reasonable length before you even think about grabbing a razor please be careful not to cut your balls off. Then make sure you exfoliate a little bit sugar and coconut oil work well if you don t have any storebought on hand before lathering up with soap or shaving cream to shave.
Moisturize after, with unscented lotion or coconut oil, this will keep you from getting razor burn. As for the rest of your body hair, I m not going to tell you what to do with it. If not, let it grow.
That s totally up to you. I don t care what you do with it as long as you re clean. Wear something that makes you feel like a badass Another extremely vital component of your physical presence is your clothing. Dress to impress, am I right? Don t dress as the man you are, dress as the man you want to be… or, more fittingly, don t dress for the women you ve had, dress for the woman you want.
You don t need to be clued into fashion at all to be stylish; in my opinion, fashion and style are two completely separate things. That being said, if you have your ear to the ground when it comes to trends, good for you! My only advice is to not go full on hype-beast when you re out with a potential hookup or out trying to hunt for one. If you show up in some wild outfit, you re likely going to either come across as too into-yourself or as too difficult to approach.
If you re dressed like you just rolled off the runway, you might be too intimidating. You want to be stylish and dress like yourself, but you also want to be approachable. Make sure you re yourself while dressed appropriately for the place you re at.
If the event you re at calls for a crazy outfit — a la EDC or an event of the like — then that s okay. However, if you re going to a more casual place or event — like a smaller music venue or a bar, for example, — then make sure you re toning it down.
If you re not super into fashion, going over the top might not be something you re worried about at all. That being said, it s always better to be slightly over-dressed than under-dressed. There s no harm in wearing a button down out or throwing on a blazer if you re unsure about how formal you need to be on a night out.
If you re unsure, I recommend taking the formality one baby-step up from what you think is okay. Being slightly over-dressed will make you seem more adult and believe me, ladies like a guy who can rock some form-fitting slacks. Have a designated power outfit for going out. Have an outfit in your closet that you know you look good in and feel like a badass in.
This way if you don t know what to wear on any given night, you always have something ready to go that you know you re going to feel confident in. Be honest with yourself about your facial hair Facial hair for a man is either a thing of pride or a huge point of anxiety. There doesn t seem to be much in between. And because facial hair is on your face it s just as important — if not more so — than what you choose to wear. If you re capable of growing a full-on mountain man beard then, by all means, go for it.
Beards are sexy, but nasty beards are the absolute worst. There should be nothing in your beard other than some nice-smelling beard oil. Your face foliage should be completely free of crumbs and other debris that might find their way into your facial plumage. To prevent your magnificent whiskers from becoming any less than well-groomed wash your beard, oil it, and keep it well trimmed. If you don t trust yourself around scissors, then find the best barbershop in town and make a regular customer out of yourself.
And when you re out on dates, hanging with a regular hookup, or going out on the town, keep a comb in your pocket. This way you can keep any crumbs out of your beard and keep it looking bomb for the ladies. Now, if there is any doubt that your facial hair actually connects or that it looks good… it s time to be honest with yourself.
Don t try to attempt going full-on-brawny-man if your facial hair looks more like fuzz than forest. Or just accept that you can t grow a beard and embrace the babyface. Similar to your outfit, your apartment is a direct reflection of you and whether or not you re an absolute mess. So if your apartment looks like a hurricane just passed through, you have some work to do my friend… Actually clean up a little Does your apartment remotely resemble the aftermath of a frat party?
Can you remember the last time you did dishes? How old is the food in your fridge? Are your sheets soaked in so much bodily-fluids that they re stiff? Dude, get your shit together. If you want to bring a girl back to your place, you shouldn t have to worry about losing her in a mountain of laundry or that stack of empty pizza boxes collapsing on her.
If you want to get laid and have her potentially coming back for more, you need to step up your cleaning game. Before having a girl over, or going out with the expectation of bringing a girl home, clean your fucking house.
Do your dishes, or at least hide them in the dishwasher — hell, why not run it while you re at it. Put your laundry away, or at least pile it in your closet and close the door. And change your sheets, or at least make your bed and spray it with some Fabreeze. It doesn t matter how well you dress if your apartment is destroyed. You re going to look like a slob. And it s embarrassing to hook up with a total slob. Try to get some HGTV vibes going While the term "bachelor pad" sounds sexy… homes of single guys are usually a little sad looking.
So it might help to scroll through Pinterest — yes, I said it. Obviously this isn t something you should be looking to do hours before a potential hookup opportunity, but taking some time to make your apartment look interesting and cool will help you in the long run.
Find some interesting posters, and if you already have some, put them in frames. You d be amazed how much of a difference a frame makes. You go from college bro to distinguished young professional in seconds. Buy some candles that don t smell like a thousand flowers. There are some manly, sexy candle scents that you can find at Target or Urban Outfitters go for things with notes of tobacco and vanilla.
Buy a throw-blanket, and a couple throw-pillows for your bed. Get an interesting coffee table book or something. You ll figure it out. This show will give you a good idea of what vibe to go for and make you feel emotions you haven t felt in years. Let s talk about sex toys baby… Okay, so I m a firm believer in a guy owning some sex toys that aren t dedicated to solo male use. If you have a Fleshlight, that s a good start… but that s not going to help satisfy any lady.
You should really invest in a nice external vibrator. You can use these to heighten your masturbatory efforts when you re on your own, but you can easily use them when hooking up with a girl.
Both of these are body safe, great quality, and easy to use with an unlubricated condom that s what you should use with sex toys.
And no, they aren t cheap. But you ll appreciate the investment in the long run you can get attachments for masturbating, they re totally worth it and so will any girl you hookup with. Just make sure you make it very clear to her that you are good about sterilizing the toy. Using a condom with it and having toy cleaner or one of these bad-boys handy, will allow both you and your lady friend to play with piece-of-mind knowing that your toys are nice and clean.
Having toys on hand, like vibrators, will leave the impression that you re interested in your partner s pleasure which is what every woman wants but seldom gets from a partner. Must haves When you re hoping that your night will end in a hookup, you should channel your inner boy scout and always be prepared. The last thing you want is for things to start escalating only to figure out that neither of you has a condom.
Here are a few things that you should always have on you when you re going out or hanging out with a potential hookup: Gum When you re out, trying to woo a girl the last thing you want to do is have to worry about your breath. Quite frankly, you don t know what your evening is going to throw at you. Yes, you want to be hookup ready, but you also don t want to have to have to worry about what drunk-food and tequila are doing to your breath. So, always keep a pack of gum on you.
This way you can go about your night without worrying what your mouth might taste like later. Plus, when you re talking close, and she catches a whiff of mint — instead of beer breath — she ll definitely want to kiss you. And when a guy suddenly smells fresh after a night out, you usually know that he s set on leaning in for that kiss.
Hair tie Always keep one of these in your pocket for later, because it might end up being just as important to your night as a condom.
Women usually keep a hair tie around their wrist or in their purse. However, they manage to disappear in situations when you need them the most. Hair ties seem to be the most elusive when you re getting ready to give a blowjob. Now I know that carrying one might not seem like your responsibility unless you re the kind of dude who s rocking a man bun. In that case you have a perfect excuse as to why you have one.
I wouldn t recommend wearing one around your wrist unless you have long flowing hair because having a hair tie around your wrist can be just as repelling as a wedding ring.
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Girls might think that your hair tie belongs to a girlfriend and dodge you as if you were married. So keep the hair tie in your pocket. And if she asks why say that you keep on in case you get lucky.
If saying that makes you feel too cocky, then say it belongs to a platonic female friend, and you just so happened to have it on you.
I don t think that a girl should be too concerned as to why you have one because it s not that uncommon for a guy to come across a hair tie in the wild. In some fraternities, they keep hair ties on them in the hopes that they get laid or in case one of their brothers get lucky. If they ask, say that you picked up the habit in college!
Condoms Okay, this should be really obvious. Obviously try to keep a condom on you if you re trying to get laid… duh. But make sure to keep a few things in mind regarding condoms, like that they actually do expire. Yes, make sure you re paying attention to the expiration date on your trusty wallet condom.
If it s past the date, throw it out and swap it for a new one. Speaking of wallet condoms… that s actually not the best place to put them. Your body heat and the friction from it being kept amongst credit cards will wear the condom down. Try to keep the condom in a jacket pocket but not the same pocket as your keys! If it looks worn down or like it could have been punctured, toss it. The best place for condoms is in cool dark places. So if you don t feel like carrying them, make sure to keep them bedside at the very least.
Though it s always good to have one on you if you re going out, use your judgment. If it looks old and tossed-around, it s probably not going to protect you from anything. Lovability s condoms are probably my absolute favorite because they re packaged in a durable container so less chance of tearing , they don t smell like Autozone, and they re packaged right-side-up which is great for trembling hands. Lube This next item might not seem as obvious as the others.
However, it s very important. Each time you find your matches The app will find you matches around town, and it is easy to use. Before you join a hookup website, make sure that they offer customer service with contact info. On the payment page, read the fine print on encryption and payment processing. A legit dating site will use payment processors like Epoch and SegPay. They will further state that "by submitting your personal information to us, you consent to our including our business partners use of said info.
Are these hookup sites free? Hookup sites are free to join and browse, but you ll need to pay a membership price if you want to meet local singles. However, they manage to disappear in situations when you need them the most. Hair ties seem to be the most elusive when you re getting ready to give a blowjob. Now I know that carrying one might not seem like your responsibility unless you re the kind of dude who s rocking a man bun. In that case you have a perfect excuse as to why you have one.
I wouldn t recommend wearing one around your wrist unless you have long flowing hair because having a hair tie around your wrist can be just as repelling as a wedding ring.
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Girls might think that your hair tie belongs to a girlfriend and dodge you as if you were married. So keep the hair tie in your pocket. And if she asks why say that you keep on in case you get lucky. If saying that makes you feel too cocky, then say it belongs to a platonic female friend, and you just so happened to have it on you. I don t think that a girl should be too concerned as to why you have one because it s not that uncommon for a guy to come across a hair tie in the wild.
In some fraternities, they keep hair ties on them in the hopes that they get laid or in case one of their brothers get lucky. If they ask, say that you picked up the habit in college! Condoms Okay, this should be really obvious. Obviously try to keep a condom on you if you re trying to get laid… duh. But make sure to keep a few things in mind regarding condoms, like that they actually do expire. Yes, make sure you re paying attention to the expiration date on your trusty wallet condom.
If it s past the date, throw it out and swap it for a new one. Speaking of wallet condoms… that s actually not the best place to put them. Your body heat and the friction from it being kept amongst credit cards will wear the condom down.
Try to keep the condom in a jacket pocket but not the same pocket as your keys! If it looks worn down or like it could have been punctured, toss it. The best place for condoms is in cool dark places. So if you don t feel like carrying them, make sure to keep them bedside at the very least. Though it s always good to have one on you if you re going out, use your judgment. If it looks old and tossed-around, it s probably not going to protect you from anything.
Lovability s condoms are probably my absolute favorite because they re packaged in a durable container so less chance of tearing , they don t smell like Autozone, and they re packaged right-side-up which is great for trembling hands. Lube This next item might not seem as obvious as the others.
However, it s very important. I m a huge proponent of lube. And while lube might not be as important as condoms when it comes to safety, lube is almost vital when it comes to the actual deed. When you re doin the do after a night out, you might have noticed that while it might be harder for you to perform it s also harder to just get it in to begin with. Whiskey dick is a catchy phrase, but sometimes women suffer from — for lack of a better phrase — whiskey vagina.
Everyone knows that when you drink you get dehydrated, but what everyone might not know is that dehydration directly effects how wet a girl can get.
So if you re planning on drinking pre-hookup, it might be a good idea to keep some lube on you. You can buy little one use packets that you can easily slip in your front pocket.
Not your back pocket; that could be a disaster. If you plan on going back to yours, make sure to keep a bottle of lube in your bedside table along with all your condoms. And make sure you buy plain ol lube. Don t buy anything that advertising a tingling sensation or that s flavored. Because "tingling" lube usually just straight up burns and flavored lube usually has glucose in it which makes it unsafe for putting it inside a vagina.
Hunting for a hookup When you re trying to get laid on any given night, you have to try. Very seldom is a girl going to just fall into your lap and be willing to go home with you. So, you need to employ a few strategies when hunting for potential hookup prospects.
As a dude, you re usually expected to be on the offensive when it comes to asking to hang out or hookup. Here are a few ways to do that: Text first When it comes to texting, no one ever wants to be the one texting first. Especially if you ve been left on read or you were the last one to respond to a dying conversation. It takes some balls, but boy can it be worth it. If there s a girl in your phone who you ve been flirting with or have hooked up in the past shoot her a text and hope for the best.
Send something subtly flirty and be direct with what you want. So be direct without being too candid, something like "Hey! What are you up to tonight? What are your plans for this weekend? I d love to see you" gives off a flirty vibe without being too overtly sexual.
Throw in a winky emoji or a smiley face for good measure. I know that texting first, especially double texting, can be a point of anxiety for most but if you want to get anywhere with a girl you re going to have to be okay with taking a risk. If you re nervous about what she might say send the text and then walk away from your phone.
This way you won t feel tempted to hover over your phone in anticipation. Though throwing your phone across your room will keep you from texting other potential hookups.
So cast your net wide and send a couple flirty text to try to make plans, but instead of tossing your phone into an abyss put some girls you re particularly nervous about on do not disturb.
Swipe right Tinder, and other dating apps alike, are arguably the most reliable ways to find a hookup. Even if girls are looking for a longterm partner on a dating app, they re usually okay with fooling around in the process. With that being said, swipe right! Log on to your favorite dating up, spruce up your profile a little bit, and go for it!
Swipe right on a ton of girls. Swipe right on any girl that you would be remotely interested in sleeping with because with dating apps you have to cast your net extremely wide. Because let s be honest, you re not going to message have the girls and they re probably not going to message first. It s harder to message first when you don t know the person. They re going to feel less obligated to reply since they don t know you. It s hard to establish that connection with a bad pickup line and a cheesy gif.
Message a large number of your matches and see if anything sparks! Set a time to meet up at a bar or a party and see if anything catches fire in real life! Slide into her DMs Do you know a girl, but not well enough to have her number?
Do you and a girl habitually like each other s tweets, but never really talk? Maybe it s time to actually talk to your WCW. There is no harm in sliding into a girl s DMs. It s less nerve-wracking then messaging a girl you already know pretty well, and you re more likely to get a response than you are by hitting on Tinder girls.
Like one of her tweets or grams and then follow it up with a compliment in her DMs. Don t be afraid to be a little more flirty than you usually would be; girls get plenty of guys sliding into their DMs, you re going to definitely need to stick out from the pack if you want a response.
If she responds, take that as a good sign and try to keep the conversation going. If you can manage to keep a conversation going in her DMs, then try to transition the conversation from online to in person by asking her if she has plans or if you could buy her a drink sometime.
If you want to get laid, you need to cultivate that connection with sincere compliments, well-timed jokes, and occasional subtly sexy innuendos. A lot of guys are flirtatiously inept. However, a general rule of thumb is that if you re making her sincerely laugh, then you re probably doing a good job. These steps that you need to somewhat nail if you want to nail her. Flirting is highly physical as well. Make sure that when you re talking with your girl that you keep your body language open and inviting.
If you re sitting down, point you knees and feet at her. If you re standing make sure to stand across from her or pivot your body toward her when talking in a group. Don t cross your arms or put something physical — like a backpack or briefcase — between the two of you; these are examples of closed body language and may give the impression that you re not into her. Another thing you should do to make sure you re giving her all the right vibes is to touch her. And no I don t mean inappropriately hopefully that ll come later.
A few examples include reaching out to brush her hair away from her face, touching her hand, touching her shoulder or looping your arm with hers while walking.
These points of contact should be affectionate without being overtly sexual, and purposeful. Accidentally brushing her hand with yours does not count.
Rules reguarding alcohol I m a believer that for some alcohol is certainly liquid courage. But I m also an active believer that for most too much alcohol is fuel for stupid decisions.
That being said, I m not totally against drinking when trying to hookup. Sometimes a beer or two, or three is what you need to build the courage to talk to that girl at the bar or finally ask her if she wants to "get out of here". I am however against sloppy drunk hookups, especially when you re hooking up with someone for the first time.
Odds are you probably don t know them very well, or if you do, you don t know them sexually at all. Knowing and trusting someone even if it s only a little bit is important even when you re looking for a fling. So stick to wine or beer if you can t trust yourself to go overboard on the liquor.
Make sure you order a glass of water in between drinks and actually drink it. Don t worry about looking like a square when watching how much you drink; you ll look mature, cool, and collected. The last thing you want to do is have one-too-many and completely ruin your chances with a girl. Confidence vs.
If you don t think you re capable of closing, you re probably not going to close. Feeling confident is something everyone has to work on. It s a total fake-it-till-you-make it scenario. Even if you re insecure, you need to put on a front that you re somewhat confident.
This is why grooming is so important in the hooking up equation; because even if you don t feel like the most confident man in the room, dressing well will help you get there. Plus, no well-groomed guy is going to look like they lack in self-esteem. However, there is a huge difference between acting confident and cocky. For some, it s hard to toe that line.
So when you re speaking, have a filter. Make sure that nothing coming out of your mouth sounds douchey and self-obsessed. This is why it s important for a lot of guys to watch how much they re drinking; for a good amount of guys they become more cocky with each drink. Don t push it by being pushy Believe me; I understand that you want to get laid. I understand that if given the option, you d probably want to get laid right here and right now.
I understand how you might feel a sense of urgency, especially if you re in the midst of a particularly lengthy dry spell. Sex is great. Sex is healthy. And sex is fun. But no what s not fun? Feeling like you re getting pressured into sex.